When I was sitting at my corporate desk day in and day out, I would have recurrent desires of working outside of the corporate world doing something I loved. I envisioned myself doing something that involved working with people, nature, and animals. But fear and self-doubt always held me back, so I stayed working in the corporate world.
During this time, I would have conflicting thoughts in my mind like this:
You know Pam, you can keep working in this career and play it safe, follow the rules, make a comfortable living, and have the security of knowing you have a job, or you can take a risk, leave the corporate world, follow your dreams and live with more joy, abundance, and freedom.
At first I adhered to the fear and self-doubt to keep me safe, and stayed on track of following the status quo. But over time my inner voice, that whisper, kept getting louder and louder until I had to really listen. I started to notice my inner drive was starting to direct me, and I knew I had to do something different, as I was in a pivotal time in my life. “Do I stay or do I go,” was the main struggle of the day.
While listening to my inner voice I stayed working in the corporate world, but I also invested in myself, learning many new and inspiring things. I learned I was no longer willing to settle with the status quo and deserved a life I love. I learned how to create what I really wanted in my life. I started to put the energy into what I wanted as opposed to what I did not want, and things started to change.
I was now focused on what I wanted even though I did not know how to make it happen. I was committed to learning and nothing was going to stop me, even with the fear and self-doubt, personal and professional circumstances, and other people’s voices lurking. I was learning how to create the results I wanted.
Know that you are more powerful than you think. You just need to believe in yourself and attract what you truly want in your life.
Following are 5 steps that I learned along the way and that anyone can use.
1. Listen to your inner voice and be responsible for your life – it’s your life!
One of the number one things to avoid is listening to what others and society wants for you, no matter who it is. They may mean well for you, but it is not their life. You can ask for their opinions but ultimately you need to take 100% responsibility for the thoughts you have and the actions you take. If you listen to other peoples’ voices and what they think is best for you, and it does not work out the way you thought it would, you end up blaming and complaining, thus remaining stuck.
2. Invest in yourself and get clarity on why you’re here.
What usually happens is as a child you had ambitions and dreams but they fell through because you were told by others what to do or who to be. You took on other peoples’ identities and in the process lost your own. My belief is that we each have unique gifts and talents that need to be shared, that we have a life purpose, calling, or mission to fulfill. And this is why so many people can’t identify with what they truly want to create in their lives. It does not have to be that way.
Start with acknowledging that inner voice, that whisper, the one that is trying to get your attention to do something different, to be the person you were really meant to be. Take the time to invest in yourself by working with a life coach or a counselor, a healer, someone who will support you on your exploratory journey. Approach this with excitement and passion, as this is the beginning phase for things to unfold that you would never have imagined.
Remember this is the exploratory stage, where you don’t know what you’re supposed to be doing. Know that this is a process and takes time. Tune into your signals and messages around you, and remember to stay tuned into yourself – what you are experiencing. What are your likes, your dislikes, what is working and not working, what speaks to you at a deeper level, what feels right, will set you on the right path. Keep a journal as you go through this process, and know if something does not work out it is only feedback.
3. Decide what you want
When I was working in the corporate world I enjoyed what I was doing but not feeling fulfilled, and living my best life. In addition, I felt I was on an assembly line, having to produce only to meet the expected productivity numbers. I was physically and mentally drained, and going nowhere fast. Why? Because I followed the status quo, I did not know I could create the life I wanted. Rather than follow my desires and dreams, I was going through the daily motions of fulfilling someone elses’ ambitions. I was wasting energy that I could have applied toward myself and what I really wanted, and as a result this left me feeling exhausted and unbalanced.
A main step toward creating what you really want is to set an intention to DECIDE what you really want. What inspires you and feels right, start to see that clearly and in detail. Think about what accomplishing that looks like to you. Write it out.
Each day commit to dreaming big. Don’t let the conditioned voice, which is societies and other peoples’ expectations inhibit you. You’ll start attracting into your life the people, resources, and opportunities you need to make your dreams come true. When you get clarity and decide what you want, your subconscious mind will be very creative in coming up with the things you need to make it happen. It just works that way.
4. Believe in you
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that YOU are capable of making it happen. Do you have a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes; the abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to create your desired results or do you question that. This is where so many people get stuck; they don’t have the self-confidence or self-assurance in believing that they can truly create what they really want.
Make the decision to get past this stage by getting support, someone who can help you work through this sticky part so that you can create all of your experiences, whether challenging or not. It is a level of responsibility that is empowering, as you are doing something. It means you are finally taking charge of your own life, to be who you really are, and do what you really want.
5. Taking action
Creating what you really want requires that you take action. It starts with taking one small step toward making a change in your life. You do not need to figure out all of the exact action steps of creating what you want; the key is to just get started.
So many people are afraid of failing, thus mistakenly feed that fear by trying to figure out the exact action steps before even getting started…and remain stuck. In reality, it’s often impossible to know the exact steps you’ll need to take, when you’re at the beginning stages of creating what you really want.
For now, the only action step you need to take is to have a measurable goal and declare what it is. Do this first and things will start to naturally unfold…the next step will show up.
Your goal could be calling somebody you admire and asking him or her questions, it could be taking time out of your day to do some research, it could be working with someone to help you release any inner limiting self-beliefs. Just make one measurable goal to get started, it really is that simple.
So think about this, what are you waiting for, if not now when? Take an honest look at your life, where you are now and where you really want to be. Make the decision your heart wants to make and you will subconsciously start to create. Commit to making it happen by starting with small action steps and watch things naturally unfold. Know that you can truly create what you really want…It’s YOUR life!
I would LOVE to hear what one measurable GOAL you are going to take to CREATE the life YOU really want.